Sunday, June 7, 2009

I'm Not Procrastinating - I Swear!

There are so many things I need to do - for myself - that just don't get done. It took me months to make a dentist appointment, and eye-doctor appointment, among other things. I'd been wanting to do it for months, but just didn't. And it wasn't for lack of wanting to. It's because sometimes I want to make an appointment and not have to bring the kids - especially for things like a lady's annual exam. The kids should not have to witness that! Yes, I could conceivably make an appointment for the eye doctor and most of my other appointments and take the kids. But, half the time, half of what I wanted to talk about gets forgotten because I have to keep the kids from destroying the room! There are a few appointments to which I refuse to take my children:
  • The aforementioned pap. Need I say more?
  • The chiropractor. It's kinda hard to keep them under control while someone's manipulating your spine!
  • Hair appointments. There's no way to keep them occupied - especially not when I'm getting highlighting done. It's not fair to anyone.
  • Massages and other spa-type things. How relaxing can it be with the kids around?
I'm sure there are more, but these are the ones that come to mind. I take my kids to see my PCP, because there's no pap-like stuff going on. I take them to the dentist, as they actually are able to help occupy them. I took them to my allergist appointment, where there (thankfully) were age-appropriate toys. There are very few things I do - or places I go - that don't occur without the children. Ask any stay-at-home mom, and you'll likely hear something similar.

So, where is this coming from? Well, the biggest problem I have is scheduling. My husband's schedule is one that is not friendly to me. Any appointments I have to make more than a couple of weeks in advance almost always need to be rescheduled because of some conflict with his work. It's because of this .. uncertainty ... that I take months to actually make most appointments. When things finally get to where I can't put it off anymore, I schedule. Prime examples:
  • I finally saw the eye doctor when I ran out of contact lenses.
  • Tooth pain has led to my scheduling a dentist appointment.
  • Needing a prescription refill led to my scheduling my annual.
That last - the dreaded annual - has been problematic. Because I waited too long to schedule, I had to wait two extra months for an appointment - which meant it was scheduled for April. But, my husband was gone for the month of April - because of work - so I had to reschedule. That meant another two months to wait. My appointment is within the next week or so, and suddenly my husband has a problem. How dare I schedule it for a Monday, when he has work stuff. Firstly, I told him back in April when it was scheduled for. Why didn't he say something then? I mean, really? I would've been annoyed, but much less so than I am now. Heck, now, I'm pissed. I will not bring these kids to my pap. No way in hell. He suggested I ask the neighbor to look after our kids - um, no. I don't want to do that to her. Her kid is going to summer school, so it's not like they'd have her to play with. I don't have much of a support system here, so I really have no one I can ask for help. This means I likely will have to wait another TWO months for my annual. At this point, I just want to get it over and done with!


Lisa said...

I feel ya! Fridays are my day to get things done because DH works from home and I can leave a few or all of the babies with him. BUT do get that PAP done!!!!!

ham1299 said...

It doesn't help that my DH doesn't have consistent days I can count on. And sometimes - often - he finds out at the last minute that he's got to go somewhere. There are generally days that are good for appointments, but there are no guarantees. If there's flooding anywhere in his district, I'm screwed! Don't worry, I will get the pap done. I just might have to wait two more months. *sigh*

Sara said...

At the last minute, I had to take T (then 9 months old) to my pap appointment last year - less than fun! He cried when I put him down so I had to hold him during it, and he tried to push the doctor away during the breast exam. It wasn't until he couldn't see the doctor anymore that he started to calm down. He's not going this year!!

ham1299 said...

LOL Yeah, I had to take Grant to one when he was a newborn. Fortunately, the nurses took him so I could have my appointment without too much interruption.

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