Tuesday, May 18, 2010

To All You Domestic Women

You know who I'm talking to. If you're one of those domesticated women, I got a question for you.

Excuse me? What do I mean "domesticated"? Oh, let me lay it out for you ...

If you're one of those women who cooks and cleans, and does it WELL. And you also have time to be a good mom to your kids, and time to blog, and read 100 books a week, and hang out on facebook, and garden, and sell Tupperware (or Pampered Chef, or Lis Sophia, or ____________ (fill in the blank) ), and still be a good wife to your husband. You know, dates, quality time ...




sex ...




(Damn! Listing it all totally gave me a minor anxiety attack!) I have a question for you. How do you do it? Seriously. I mean, is it for real, or is it a front? If you really do it, HOW? Spell it out for those of us who apparently missed that class in school.

Better yet. Send me some of that super-mommy mojo, PLEASE! I could use some.

Oh, and as for the real question: Do you use index cards for your recipes? Do you file them? And here's the STUPIDEST question ever: do you put the labels in front of or behind the tabbed thingy that says the letter of the alphabet?

Say WHAT?

Does your recipe box go: A ~ Recipes starting with "A" ~ B ~ Recipes starting with "B" ...
Or does it go: Recipes starting with "A" ~ A ~ Recipes starting with "B" ~ B ...

Or is your system completely different – more like a cookbook? (I do alphabetical, because I think of the name of the recipe I want, then get it, rather than think of what I wanna make, then where it's categorized, etc., etc., etc.)

Inquiring minds wanna know ...

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5 comments:

Christine D. said...

Well...I'm definitely NOT supermom. I fall short in alot of ways. In fact, I doubt I fit the bill of the women you're looking to hear from, but I'll share anyway since no one else has.

Anyway, I cook 3 meals a day (plus feed snacks), take care of the dog and mouse, go grocery shopping every couple of days (food's fresher that way). Hubby and I have been DTD every other day recently...plus I do my writing work and find some time to worship/pray/read my bible.

But I will tell you, that there are times I can't do it all everyday. Normally something suffers a little. For instance, my house is NOT spotless by any means. In fact, if someone came over right now, I'd probably not let them in! Seriously. But the housework is not a huge concern to DH. As long as I'm spending time with the kids, and he and I are attending to each other's needs in the bedroom (oh, and I'm not spending tons of money on take-out because I'm cooking edible meals), and I'm doing my writing work and bringing in money, he's okay with the housework slipping. I just had to find out what was most important to him, and then prioritize that way. Now in his eyes I guess I am "superwife" because he's higher on my list of priorities than before even though I still feel like I fall short. HTH!

As for the recipe box, would you believe I have the same question? I don't use a recipe box much anymore, though I should. If I remember correctly, I think I used to put my recipes behind the letter.

Christine D. said...

Some more thoughts...I read your recipe question more closely. Mine just says "A", "B", etc. And my means of filing them is kinda sloppy at the moment. I just rip out the page in the magazine where I saw a recipe I liked, and then put that in the cabinet where I keep my cookbook. LOL

I wanted to elaborate on the whole sex issue too....nothing really drives the point home of how important our husbands are to us than by making time for them in the bedroom. It's hard for the devil to cause strife in a marriage, or to move someone into a place of temptation, when they're being thoroughly satisfied at home. Plus it's an awesome stress reliever for both parties, lol.

This is probably TMI, but when DH gets home from work, he'll play for the kids for awhile and then I'll put a movie on for them. We'll sneak upstairs, lock the baby gates (so we can hear them coming! lol) and fool around for awhile. It's nice to sneak in some afternoon time like that. :-) DH is a "mediterranean man" (Italian, lol) so sex is extremely important to him. He equates sex to love, and if he's not getting any, he doesn't feel loved. Anyway, just some more thoughts as to why I make this a high priority. :-)

ham1299 said...

Man, I can't believe all you get done! AMAZING! (Insert not-worthy smiley here!)

As for the recipes - glad I'm not the only one with that question! ;-)

As for the sex, I'm trying to never turn DH down. I failed the other night, though. But, in my defense, it was 1 A.M. and I was EXHAUSTED. He was leaving EARLY the following morning, and I'm on my own this week. While part of me wanted to send him off "happy" I just couldn't imagine getting even LESS sleep that night ... but, that's the first time I've turned him down in quite awhile. I'm trying to be always available to him, because I believe Biblically, it's the right thing to do. (There was a post on the Women Living Well blog on it that really hit home to me. I can try to look it up if you want.)

Christine D. said...

OMGosh - I'm so not worthy of your not-worthy smiley! Really! Like I said, my house is a mess. And the kids probably watch more TV than they should. Some days are super productive and other days I do absolutely nothing. I just try to factor in a few things that are most important: Time with God, time with DH, time with the kids, and me time. Everything else pretty much falls into place.

Yes, please! I would love that post. Good for you for not refusing DH! Although I don't blame you for not doing it the other night... 1 am is definitely a late night. You're doing the right thing though. It really is so important to marriages. I truly believe no one person in the marriage should hold that kind of power over the other when it comes to sex....meaning, both should try to give in as much as possible when asked for it because withholding is bad news.

Unfortunately my poor DH was rejected for so long that he stopped initiating. :-( We had alot of problems in this area for years. So finally, starting recently I have been initiating. I get myself in the mood while he's at work, and then when he comes home I keep the kids busy with a movie downstairs while I bring him upstairs and practically rape him, ripping off his clothes...he loves it. LOL Sometimes we do it everyday but for the most part it's every other day. He really enjoys it when I tell him what I want and when I want it. :-)

ham1299 said...

You are too funny. You know I love ya.

Here's the post:
http://womenlivingwell-courtney.blogspot.com/2010/03/importance-of-intimacy-in-marriage.html

Good for you in making amends with your DH. Mine doesn't ask too much anymore, either - for the same reason. Too much rejection earlier in our marriage. I'm hoping that as he sees I'm more receptive, that'll improve.

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